WHO WOULD YOU BE IF THE WORLD NEVER GAVE YOU A LABEL

WHO WOULD YOU BE IF THE WORLD NEVER GAVE YOU A LABEL

       

   

     Living in a world where everybody always have something they don’t like about you, what do you do? You can block everything they say and live by your own label. It’s about time we grow up and stop thinking about the label or try to fix ourselves. Try and accept who you are and not the label others have on you.

1. Internal alignment.

 The absence of internal conflict is the only way to be at peace with our true self.  Any misalignment between our life and our core standards will prevent us from being totally honest with ourselves.  Self-honesty is a prerequisite to internal harmony. To be yourself means that you need to identify your core standards and align with them.

2.   Know your personal values. 

We all have a built-in set of personal values. If we lose touch with those values we lose touch with our true self. When we violate those values we violate our relationship with the person that we really are. To truly be yourself, it is vital that you identify those values and make every effort to live by them.

3.   Pick your pain and pleasure paradigms. 

As humans, we are programmed to move away from pain and toward pleasure. To feel good about our pursuits and goals, they need to represent some form of pleasure. To avoid the things that are out of alignment with our core standards and personal values, they need to represent pain on some level. If you properly assign these pain and pleasure paradigms they will fully support your natural tendency to be yourself.

4.   Choose your passions carefully.

You might think that you have very little control over your passions, but nothing could be further from the truth. To make sure that our passions align with our true self they need to be in harmony with our values and standards. Passions are easily influenced by what we think about and what we take in through our five senses. These are all within your control.

5.   Adjust your response patterns. 

How we respond to the many situations and circumstances in our lives will determine how the world around us responds to us. Most people just react to external stimuli. How much more appropriate it is to respond in a way that supports our values and reinforces our sense of self-honesty. If someone pushes your buttons and you just react, then they were the ones controlling you. To be yourself you need to consciously choose your response.

6.   Cultivate positive beliefs about yourself. 

Being yourself is very difficult if you believe that you are worthless, which of course isn’t true. Make it a habit to cultivate positive feelings about yourself as a person. Commend yourself for all the wonderful ways you contribute to the world around you.  If you give yourself the approval you deserve then your identity won’t depend on approval from outside sources.